Fighting Fear

There I was, the keys to the truck in my hand, and $8,833 less in my bank. Just minutes before I’d been eager, excited, and ready. Now I was feeling something akin to terror. What had I just done? I’d traded in my cute, gas efficient, and dependable little car for this 10 year old monster of a truck with a mostly unknown track record. Okay, so that’s a bit of an exaggeration. In truth it’s a mid-size truck and not big by truck standards, but for someone who’s never driven anything larger than a car before that’s plenty big enough.

So what had changed? I had just stepped out of my comfort zone. When you are planning to do something big, unusual, or otherwise outside of what you feel comfortable doing, there will be some anxiety. But it’s not like taking that first real step into the unknown, when theories and plans suddenly become reality.

First off, fear is at times a useful tool. It makes us think before we act, which in some situations is a very good thing. For instance, fear of spending my money carelessly, and of choosing the wrong vehicle is what lead me to spend hours ahead of time looking at various tow vehicle options. This kind of fear is beneficial.

Going into the purchase of my truck I had a good grip on what I did and didn’t want, what technical specifications were going to be necessary for towing what I wanted to tow, how much I was willing to spend, and which dealerships in the area were reputable. Therefore, when I found the truck I wanted, got satisfactory answers to the questions I had about it, had a chance to examine it, and looked up the VIN online and found no outstanding issues, I felt confident in my decision to buy it. I was even offered an extended warranty on it that would have lasted over two years with the amount of miles I was expecting to put on it (which I later dropped for a full refund when I had the time to go over the full contract of inclusions and exclusions, and determined that the probability of the warranty being worth what I had spent on it was low).

Basically, I’d done as much as I could reasonably do to make sure the situation turned out favorably, and this is important. Whether you’re planning to go RVing like me, or are making any sort of big decision that could have lasting impact, do everything that you can reasonably do to ensure that the outcome is the one you expect and want. Usually fear is based in the unknown, so make it a point to know as much as you can going into the decision.

While planning it out helps, it won’t get rid of the fear. Moving from planning to action and stepping outside of your comfort zone can be a difficult step, and some will have a harder time of it than others. I always feel sad when I talk to people who have great plans for things they want to do someday, but they fail to get from a point of planning to a point of acting on those plans, because they fear what might happen if things go wrong.

Here’s the truth though, essentially everyone experiences fear. Those who manage to accomplish difficult or amazing things push forward despite it. While there is no way to completely avoid fear with big decisions and dreams, there are things you can do to help you get use to moving out of your comfort zone. Start with small things that make you uncomfortable, and work your way up to larger ones. For me, these included introducing myself to strangers, and speaking up at work when I felt I had a better way of doing something.

Another way to combat fear is to ask yourself these three questions about your proposed decision.

First, what would happen if you fail? And I’m not talking about anything along the mundane range of normal failure, I mean the worst case scenario. You know, the one your mind replays in the wee hours of the night when you start to doubt if you can really make it work? For RVing, mine usually goes something like this: I’m not able to find work and I run out of money, then my truck breaks down in the middle of nowhere, and I’m all alone and its raining, and when I call my friends up on the phone to ask for help they just laugh and say deal with it, and I have to pull what I can carry out of the RV, and I end up living under a bridge like a hobo and…. Well, you get the point.

Now that you have your worst case scenario in mind, think about this a moment. How likely is it to happen, really? Not very. Probability has a thing or two to say about the chances of everything possible going wrong at once. Yeah, theoretically it could happen, but it’s slim. In fact, the chances are actually rigged in your favor. This is because the worst case scenario assumes that you just stand by and let it all happen to you without taking further actions along the way to correct your course. If you’ve made it this far, if you had the guts and tenacity to be out living your dream, you won’t just stand idly by.

Grab a paper and pen (or open your word processor), and start thinking now about the things you could do to turn your worst case scenario around. So I’m out RVing and I can’t find any work and I run out of money. Already I’m seeing flaws in this prediction.

For starters, I keep a close eye on my money. In fact, I’ve already decided the amount for how low I’ll let my savings drop before I drop what I’m doing and focus my attention on making money again. I’d start looking for a way to earn some more dough long before my savings hit 0.

I worked in food service and retail part time when I was in high school and college. These jobs aren’t high paying or fun by any means – definitely not my first choice for employment, but they’re more common than other sorts of jobs. I could work one of them and earn at least a little money while I continued searching for a job that met my needs and interests better. I could also look into part-time or temporary jobs, and I’ll still have my certification for the work I do now. If it came down to it, I could always go back and find a job again in my current field. In fact it would be easier to do if I’m on the road without a lease out on an apartment or anything because then I could search for jobs in my field over a much wider geographical region.

So the other part of my worst case scenario: My truck breaks down and everyone I try to call just laughs and me and won’t help, and I end up living under a bridge. Well that’s silly, yeah it’s true that fair weather friends exist and maybe not every friend I have would be able or willing to help, but I know some of them would. I could always go back and live with my parents for a while while I get back on my feet. This would be an uncomfortable situation for sure, but remember, we’re talking about if the absolute worst should happen.

As it turns out, most of the fear exists only in our heads. I can look at the above worst case scenario at this point and chuckle at how unlikely it is.

The second question to ask yourself is what would happen if you did nothing. If you decided not to follow your dream, and just continued doing what you are doing now. For me, this is a pretty depressing thought. I imagine myself on my deathbed and sad when I think of all the things I wanted to do and never tried.

And the third question, what would happen if your idea worked out? Instead of falling into the trap of dwelling on everything that might go wrong if you follow your dream (and remember, the chances of the absolute worst happening are very slim indeed), instead concentrate on what it would feel and be like if it worked out. If you are doing as much as you reasonably can to ensure success, this will be the more likely outcome. Give yourself permission to be excited, to think about the positives of your great idea, to daydream about it if that will help you to follow through.

What helps you overcome fear?

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  1. Anne on July 29, 2017 at 8:38 am

    Hi Becky! Thank you for this post (six years later). I just picked up my camper (four days ago) and I’m in the “now what have I done” phase. Every noise, every quirk, is overwhelming. So this post is just what I need.

    I had to laugh at your “monster of a truck” comment. My truck feels huge, my camper feels huge, but I snapped a picture of them at a rest stop — parked next to the longest fifth wheel I have ever seen. My rig (I can say that, can’t I?) looked tiny in comparison.

    Looking at where you are now just shows what can happen when you get past the fear, so thanks for that!

    • Becky on July 31, 2017 at 8:56 pm

      You’re welcome Anne and I’m glad you found this helpful! Congrats on your new camper and don’t worry, the fear will diminish as you get use to it (yes, you have a rig!) safe travels and happy trails to you.

  2. LKM on October 1, 2014 at 9:02 pm

    Followed your link here!

    This is what I needed to read. Thank you.

    I do get wrapped up into spinning the most horrible story for myself and letting my fears run away with me.

    It’s comforting to know that others have some of the same fears and I’m not alone.
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    • Becky on October 3, 2014 at 10:32 am

      You’re welcome LKM, and you’re certainly not alone! I hope this helps you get around the fear and do the amazing things you’re meant to do.

  3. Ron on August 24, 2014 at 2:04 pm

    WOW!!! Great Post

    • Becky on August 26, 2014 at 12:21 pm

      Glad you liked it Ron. This is good stuff to remember in times of hardship.

  4. Terri on August 24, 2014 at 12:21 pm

    Your worst scenario is also my biggest fear, lol.. Literally, I’m worried I will break down somewhere and have no where to go, and then I”ll be stuck with all my animals and no where to go! But you’re right – I know I will have some sort of roadside assistance, and like you, I will make sure my balance doesn’t go down below a certain amount. I’m worried that I won’t make the right decision on the RV, or that I will buy a lemon, etc.,etc., you know where I”m going with that.

    But like you, I do my research. I’m going to try to learn more about how to fix RVs ahead of time, or at least know who to call, and you’re right, the forums, etc., are great for help in situations where you need repairs.

    I’ve been taking small (ish) steps so far, though, for, the past year. Like, last weekend, I got my motorcycle license so that I can get a scooter that has some power to it, since I know I can’t afford to buy a tow vehicle and travel trailer, so for me, it’s the motorhome and scooter. And blogs like yours are so super helpful.
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    • Becky on August 26, 2014 at 12:20 pm

      Glad this proved helpful for you Terri. It’s an old process of our brains from before we were so technologically advanced that initiates this fear response in the face of uncertainty, and it’s an archaic process that doesn’t have as much use in the modern world as it did for our distant hunter/gatherer ancestors.

  5. Carolyn on December 23, 2011 at 11:40 am

    I am working on facing my fears…one day at a time. 🙂

  6. Marvin on December 6, 2011 at 9:58 am

    I hope you are going to write a book about your successes . You are the future of RV’ing .

    • Becky on December 6, 2011 at 5:10 pm

      You’re making me blush Marvin, thanks. First things first, I need to actually get on the road, lol. I made some progress with downsizing today though, sold something on Craigslist that I’ve been meaning to do for a while now. As it turns out Christmas season is a better time to be selling used electronics. Getting closer, step by step.

  7. Nancy on December 5, 2011 at 8:58 pm

    I bought myself a big truck to pull my little trailer and set out to reach the other coast. I saw so many wonderful things in-between and never once worried about mountains ahead because it’s so easy to pull.

    I fight fear with two thoughts:

    The worst thing that can ever happen to me has already happened.


    What’s the worst thing that can happen, now? I can sit, do nothing, miss everything, and be sad.
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    • Becky on December 5, 2011 at 10:15 pm

      Good for you Nancy, for getting out there. The thought of doing nothing and letting things stay as they are is a big motivator for me to keep pushing forward.

  8. Isherwood Wildwalker on December 5, 2011 at 4:08 pm

    My brother-in-law faces his fear by asking himself “What’s my hesitation?”

    I try to follow some steps as well, but get stuck in my list

    4) Analyze Potential Solutions
    5) Select Solution

    Thank you for your insight!

    • Becky on December 5, 2011 at 5:26 pm

      Your welcome Ish! I focus on identifying the worst fear and finding a good solution for that one. I could spend more time thinking about other problems that might crop up and solutions for those as well, but I feel that wouldn’t be a good use of my time with so many different possibilities to consider.

      Another thing that I find helpful is to explain the situation to a friend who isn’t directly connected. Sometimes it seems like I’m too close to the problem to be able to see the solution, but when I explain it to someone else they do a better job of getting to the heart of it. I think we have a tendency at times to make things out to be more complicated than they really are.

      I’ve read your blog update for today and I see that you’re going through a rough spot. Best of luck, and I hope the rest of the week is better for you!