But when we win, it’s a different story. We can announce our success, but can’t celebrate too loudly or for too long or it’s seen as bragging. Nobody likes a know-it-all or a bragger.
Being passionate about a dream is seen in much the same way.
The people who stay cool and collected, who seem to have it all together and act with aplomb during their successes are applauded in our society. But being wildly enthusiastic when discussing what you do (or want to do) with your life? Most people don’t know how to respond to that having never been that excited about their own life. It makes them uncomfortable.
So you tone down your passion when discussing it with ‘normal’ people. You edit yourself to blend in and act with poise in an effort to impress the seriousness of your dream on the listener, to show them that you’re approaching the whole thing logically and that this isn’t just some flight of fancy, because most people can’t equate passion with having a plan.
And when the joy of your dream refuses to be contained? When you can’t stand for one moment longer to pretend to be one of those people who accepts the status-quo? When you just have to share your truth with the world?
You’ll be judged for it. And that’s a good thing.
Because when you’re truly, authentically you with other people, it’ll drive away those who aren’t really your people, and attract those who are. How will your tribe know you if you’re pretending to be someone else?
If you can be nothing else, be yourself. In the long run you’ll be much happier for it.
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Remember those questions I was asking myself about community in the last Lasqueti travelogue post? Well, I’ve now had some time to ruminate on that experience. I haven’t sorted through everything yet, but this blog post came into being as a result of those questions.
For a while there, I was feeling some misgivings about writing so much about my non-RVing adventures. My readership has gone down a bit this last month that I’ve been focusing on other traveling. But in the end, IO can’t be just a blog about RVing, because I’m the one writing it and while I still love RVing and intend to do a lot more of it, I also love other things as well and like all people I’m constantly evolving. If I’m not sharing these other interests too I’ll eventually lose interest in IO and stop updating it, the fate of so many blogs.
So here goes.
Hi, my name is Becky. I’m passionate about RVing and deliberate living. I love hiking and a year ago got into poi dancing. I talk about all of these here on IO because they’re important to me and make me happy, and I believe that we should be open about our dreams to attract the people who truly get us. I live in an RV, but lately have been doing other kinds of adventures because I enjoy other kinds of travel, too.
If you enjoy all of what I write, great! If you enjoy some of what I write, then only read what you find interesting and find other blogs/websites/channels about other things that you enjoy. And if you’re no longer enjoying what I write enough to keep following IO? No hard feelings. People (and dreams) aren’t static, they change all the time, that’s part of human nature.
I wish you all the best with your dreams, whatever they may be. No truly, I mean it.
I’m back from Isle Royale safe and sound, what fun! The first of those travelogues is coming later this week, stay tuned…
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